| Let's face it... There are plenty of misconceptions about the women and men in the foreign life-mate experience! Please take a moment to read our Mission Statement first - which will tell you all you need to know about the purpose of our site. Then feel free to enjoy the helpful info below! |
| Think you know why so many foreign ladies seek husbands from abroad every year? THINK AGAIN! |
| 15 million MORE women then men... Where? Amazing, but true! Women in this part of the world outnumber men by the millions! The United Nations has issued a report the unless something drastic happens to spur population growth in the next 50 years one country may not be able to sustain it's infrastructure in some large cities. Years of war, an alarmingly high mortality rate among men of working age and certain health issues (like alcoholism) have taken a serious toll on men from this culture. According to very reliable resources, 80% of the people who die annually in this country who are of working age - are men!! Here's a logical question: Where do the MILLIONS of attractive, single, marriage-minded, family-oriented women in this culture find a life-partner? Is it possible that YOU hold the answer to someone's search for love, family and happiness? So... Where do women outnumber men by the millions? |
| Want to know How To Make Your Foreign Bride Completely Miserable And Regret The Day She Ever Met You? Read this article - and don't listen to any of it! Almost all the information available to us on the foreign bride search focuses on the search itself: how to get started, consider your options for travel and finally meet the one girl you started out to find. Most advice stops once your fiancée arrives here to begin her new life with you. There's very little help out there to navigate us through our first 90 days together and beyond yet this can be the most critical time of all for new couples. Well-meaning guys make serious mistakes in the way they handle parenting, sex, money, social situations, work authorization and critical deadlines for fiancée documents. To ensure you and your fiancée have the happily-ever-after you both hoped for when you met, this could be the most important article you will ever read! |
| A Must Read: Don't get scammed! Partnering with a REPUTABLE, INTEGRITY-DRIVEN International Marriage Agency is critical in your search for a foreign bride, however, even the best IMA's rely on a little fantasy marketing to catch your attention. Respectable, authentic women's profiles are sometimes offered side by side with potential scammers - and sometimes it's very difficult to tell who's who. So, how does the average guy (read you and me) sift through the piles of profiles at any IMA web-site and separate the fantasy from reality? How do we focus our attention and resources on the most sincere ladies to find the shortest possible path - to HER?! Believe it or not - it's fairly easy if we just follow a few basic rules. |
| Welcome to the new Foreign Bride 101! Advice, information and resources for men in the search for an international life-mate. |
| by Bud Patterson Author of "Foreign Bride 101: A How-To for Nice Guys!" |
| If you are serious about your search for a foreign life-mate, I recommend my book "Foreign Bride 101: A How-To for Nice Guys!" Why? I've been happily married to my wife, Victoria, whom I met in St. Petersburg, Russia in 2001, for nearly 7 years! In my 9 years of work in the international introductions business, I have helped literally hundreds of men and women just like you find each other and their happiness. This process can be relatively easy, affordable and fun. It can also be confusing, expensive and severely frustrating! The difference: Reliable information based on reality and not fantasy marketing! For men determined to get on a plane and make it happen, I know what works and what doesn't! I want you to take the shortest possible path to HER - that inevitable life-mate who loves you and completes who you are. "Foreign Bride 101: A How-To for Nice Guys!" is the best preliminary work I can think of to prepare you for what lies ahead! Buy it today! Do it before you spend another dime on anything foreign bride related! Buy it! Read it! And heed it! |
| If you're considering international dating and marriage then you're probably wondering: "So... why do so many foreign women seek husbands from abroad every year?" Let's explore the less than obvious answer! |
| New to the search for an international life-partner? Wondering where you can get honest and reliable information on international dating and marriage? Do you have many questions? Worried about scams? You should be... BUT don't let petty scams stop you from meeting HER - that beautiful, intelligent someone who waits to discovered and longs to be loved - by YOU! Let us show you how it's done! Join my FREE live weekly telephone forum each Monday evening at 9:30pm EST! (This call is sponsored by A Foreign Affair! Only your normal long distance charges apply.) Dial (404) 920-6610 and, when prompted, enter the conference code 935905#. Then sit back and listen or press * 1 to join the discussion! Join over 50 other men from the U.S. Canada and Europe as we answer all your questions about how to find, fall in love with and marry a beautiful foreign lady! Or - begin your journey as I began mine...by clicking on a few attractive pictures below. WARNING: This could literally change your life forever... It definitely changed mine! |
| Foreign Bride 101 A "How-To" For Nice Guys By Bud Patterson |
| A must-read for anyone seriously considering the search for a foreign bride! Save money! Avoid Scams! Find HER! 113 pages! Buy It Now |
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| Listen to My Live Radio Interview Here's one of several live radio interviews I have done in recent years to talk about the foreign bride search and experience! This one is particularly cool as it incorporates a few excerpts from live foreign lady interviews! |
| BELOW IS A SAMPLING OF EXCERPTS FROM MY BOOK, SOME MISCELLANEOUS ARTICLES AND HELPFUL TIPS FOR MEN IN THE FOREIGN BRIDE SEARCH! I HOPE THESE ADD CLARITY AND ENCOURAGEMENT AS YOU PREPARE TO MEET HER! I ALSO HOPE THEY HELP PREVENT YOU FROM GETTING SCAMMED OR MAKING SOME OF THE MISTAKES I MADE ALONG THE WAY TO MEETING VIKTORIA, MY LIFE-MATE FROM ST. PETERSBURG, RUSSIA! |
| Getting scammed in the international life-mate search is easy! NOT getting scammed is also easy - if you think with your heart and not... some other part of your anatomy. |
| An amateur photographer's collection of great pictures - and a few videos of St. Petersburg, Russia! This is a wonderful collection of photos by someone really talented! |
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| *Our site features pictures of beautiful foreign women and places courtesy of Dreamstime and 123RF Stock Photography. You'll find many Eastern European photographers featured at these sites - and their work is incredible! If you have a web-site in need of images, or if you just enjoy awesome photography, we encourage you to visit their sites at www.dreamstime.com and 123rf.com! |
| Avoid Foreign Bride Scams! It's easy to get scammed in the foreign bride search! Well meaning, unsuspecting men get sucked into international dating scams every day! Yet, it's also incredibly easy to meet hundreds of very sincere, family-oriented, marriage-minded foreign ladies who are seeking a life-mate like you for all the right reasons! The difference between foreign bride heaven or foreign bride hell is simple: HAVE A REALISTIC PLAN IN THE FIRST PLACE! Scamming agencies know one thing - men love fantasy - and if they sell it someone will likely buy it. How do you meet a lady who is both lovely and 100% real? How do you bypass the potential pitfalls and find HER? Buy and read Foreign Bride 101: A "How-To" for Nice Guys! My book offers candid, practical advice to keep you from being fooled by the fantasy marketing practices of foreign agencies. Avoid scams! Read this book! |
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| Find HER! Do it now! She is real, she is out there, waiting to be discovered - by you! |
| Disclaimer This site is intended for entertainment purposes only. Always use caution when corresponding with others from any dating or foreign bride internet site, and independently confirm any information you deem to be material. I am neither a trained relationship counselor nor an immigration expert. The information contained on this web site may provide general legal information but is not intended to give legal advice or counsel on any specific legal matter. It does not create an attorney-client relationship and should not be relied upon in lieu of legal counsel. The links provided in this web site are for the entertainment and enjoyment of on-line readers and do not constitute an endorsement of products or services represented there. www.foreignbride101.com is an A Foreign Affair Affiliate Partner! Contact us HERE. |
| How do you say "I love you" in Russian? Or - how do you compliment your sweetheart in her native language? If we make the effort to say ANYTHING to HER in HER native language - believe me - she'll love it! Learn basic Russian phrases |
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| "Even nice men find it hard to be faithful..." |
| Order Russian books for your foreign bride and her child! |
| And What About Gift Giving? We love to give gifts and flowers to our foreign women. We live for that look of appreciation that tells us we've made an impression on HER! More importantly, we love our girl and want her to know and feel that every day despite the distances between us. Our brains are wired to provide and protect and the gift-giving instinct is definitely a part of that. And yet - we really have no reliable point of reference to tell us what gifts to give, what things to not give and when is most appropriate to give gifts to her and her family. I used to literally take a separate suitcase to Russia with me packed only with items for my Viktoria and her family. I chose items carefully for everyone and had a great time shopping for them. Here are some helpful ideas to help you show your appreciation for your foreign girl and the ones you love. |
| Glimpses of Russia and Ukraine How do we decide to travel half way around the world in search of love to a place we've hardly ever heard of and definitely can't pronounce? No doubt, a good number of interested men over the years did not fulfill their destiny to go abroad and meet some of the sincere women who wrote to them. After months of correspondence, when faced with the choice to leave familiar shores and take a chance on international love or stay home and be lonely, they chose the latter. Our news and media have such slanted, incomplete views of the rest of the world and are no help in painting a picture of the cultures, people and women who would welcome us - literally - with open arms! Guys - we have a lot to learn about HER culture and world if we are ever going to be confident enough to get on that plane and go. Here are some terrific, albeit completely random, pictures of Russia and Ukraine to help develop your sense of destiny. Look at these pictures and imagine how easily you could be there, taking them! Guys, we were meant to go THERE and find HER! |
| The Statue of the Motherland, bigger than the Statue of Liberty, greets visitors to Volgograd, the former Stalingrad, Russia - site of one of WWII's bloodiest battles. |
| Wandering Camera (above) has added some really cool videos of St. Petersburg, Russia around the holidays. Watch these and get a true feeling of "being there" in the moment! Again, we can't get enough "glimpses" of everyday life in the former FSU if we truly want to learn HER culture and world! |
| Russian Pop Culture Lesson # 1 Remember when MTV used to actually show music videos? Well, speaking of YouTube, there's actually a terrific selection of foreign music, film and literature essays to be viewed at YouTube in your spare time. What better way to familiarize yourself with HER popular culture and everyday world, such as the songs she knows, the artists she admires, and her cultural perspective on love and relationships in general. Again, this is a great way to get to know your girl - and she'll appreciate the effort on your part! There's something seriously addictive about these, so beware! |
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| Well, if you have any intention of going to Ukraine or Russia in search of love, you must make some effort to learn HER language. Russian is commonly spoken in Ukraine and throughout the Former Soviet Union. Here is one of a great set of YouTube vids to help you get started! |
Below are some excerpts from several articles I found at www.waytorussia.net. I do not endorse this site nor do I agree with everything that is written or
offered there. Still, they have some very interesting perspectives from staff writers, some of which I am sharing below because I have found them to be true
in my travels and experiences. You must keep in mind that in any culture there will be varying opinions on social topics like "Why Do Russian/Ukrainian
Women Seek Foreign Men?" It's always interesting to read articles written by foreign women...
" Russian women are said to be 'the most beautiful women in the world'. Many of them have almond eyes. They are tall and thin with long legs; most of them are
blond, and they have pink cheeks in Winter. They like to reveal their beautiful bodies as you will be able to witness if you go to Russia in summer or visit a night club.
As stupid as these generalizations may sound, they are mostly true. It is much harder to describe the character of a "typical" young Russian woman, because it
depends so much on subculture she comes from. It may be easier just to point out some inherently "Russian" traits, which may explain some of the unexpected
behavior you will get.
A typical Russian woman seems like she knows what she's doing and affirms herself. Russian women, especially young women, are quite pushy in everyday life.
Perhaps the fact that you have to be a "fighter" in Russia to succeed make this side of their character come out more often. But it doesn't mean they are
straightforward and independent in a relationship. For example, it's considered a bad tone for a woman to come up to a man as the "old-school" morals are still quite
strong. Flirting often becomes a game where you are expected to make the first moves. If you have a Russian girlfriend, she will expect you to nurture her, to
accompany her everywhere, to open a door for her, to pay her bills, in short, to be very courteous – a real gentleman. On the other side, she will be happy to help
you push through a long queue, win an argument with a policeman about your outdated visa registration, drink more vodka at one night than you did during the last
3 months, and hit you hard if you behave bad. Russian girls want to succeed in life, but they are very romantic. They will plunge into relationship without having a
second thought if they feel like it. They will spend all day walking around aimlessly holding your hand even if they have an important exam to take the next morning.
They will go to the end of the world to stay with their lover. They will expect much of you, but will give even more in return. Don't expect the practicality you may
find in the West."
Refreshing, and interesting, right? I also saw this from an accompanying article on middle aged-women in Russia...
"During the period of big changes in Russia in the 90s, people had to adapt to a new way of life. The generation that was born in the 50s or 60s faced the biggest
challenge perhaps. There was one kind of life before and suddenly they had to change... It was like having two completely different lives. Middle aged women don't
seem as provocative as the young women are, even though they also wear outstanding clothes, transparent tops, short dresses. There is a contrast between the
women who follow the latest western fashion and the ones still wearing clothes as in the eighties.
Most of middle class women live in Soviet flats in the cities with their family, and sometimes with their parents or parents in law. They don't travel often, except for
going to their family datcha, or little wooden country house (if they have one). They spend time there in the Summer, close to nature, growing vegetables,
making hand crafts, swimming, looking after their children. Many Russian middle aged women go camping with their families, they're used to conditions
not as comfortable as in the West. Women working in cities can be very stressed and shouting for nothing. Some women still have the 'Soviet style of working' where
they don't care about being polite, or about selling more or less, because anyway they get paid the same."
offered there. Still, they have some very interesting perspectives from staff writers, some of which I am sharing below because I have found them to be true
in my travels and experiences. You must keep in mind that in any culture there will be varying opinions on social topics like "Why Do Russian/Ukrainian
Women Seek Foreign Men?" It's always interesting to read articles written by foreign women...
" Russian women are said to be 'the most beautiful women in the world'. Many of them have almond eyes. They are tall and thin with long legs; most of them are
blond, and they have pink cheeks in Winter. They like to reveal their beautiful bodies as you will be able to witness if you go to Russia in summer or visit a night club.
As stupid as these generalizations may sound, they are mostly true. It is much harder to describe the character of a "typical" young Russian woman, because it
depends so much on subculture she comes from. It may be easier just to point out some inherently "Russian" traits, which may explain some of the unexpected
behavior you will get.
A typical Russian woman seems like she knows what she's doing and affirms herself. Russian women, especially young women, are quite pushy in everyday life.
Perhaps the fact that you have to be a "fighter" in Russia to succeed make this side of their character come out more often. But it doesn't mean they are
straightforward and independent in a relationship. For example, it's considered a bad tone for a woman to come up to a man as the "old-school" morals are still quite
strong. Flirting often becomes a game where you are expected to make the first moves. If you have a Russian girlfriend, she will expect you to nurture her, to
accompany her everywhere, to open a door for her, to pay her bills, in short, to be very courteous – a real gentleman. On the other side, she will be happy to help
you push through a long queue, win an argument with a policeman about your outdated visa registration, drink more vodka at one night than you did during the last
3 months, and hit you hard if you behave bad. Russian girls want to succeed in life, but they are very romantic. They will plunge into relationship without having a
second thought if they feel like it. They will spend all day walking around aimlessly holding your hand even if they have an important exam to take the next morning.
They will go to the end of the world to stay with their lover. They will expect much of you, but will give even more in return. Don't expect the practicality you may
find in the West."
Refreshing, and interesting, right? I also saw this from an accompanying article on middle aged-women in Russia...
"During the period of big changes in Russia in the 90s, people had to adapt to a new way of life. The generation that was born in the 50s or 60s faced the biggest
challenge perhaps. There was one kind of life before and suddenly they had to change... It was like having two completely different lives. Middle aged women don't
seem as provocative as the young women are, even though they also wear outstanding clothes, transparent tops, short dresses. There is a contrast between the
women who follow the latest western fashion and the ones still wearing clothes as in the eighties.
Most of middle class women live in Soviet flats in the cities with their family, and sometimes with their parents or parents in law. They don't travel often, except for
going to their family datcha, or little wooden country house (if they have one). They spend time there in the Summer, close to nature, growing vegetables,
making hand crafts, swimming, looking after their children. Many Russian middle aged women go camping with their families, they're used to conditions
not as comfortable as in the West. Women working in cities can be very stressed and shouting for nothing. Some women still have the 'Soviet style of working' where
they don't care about being polite, or about selling more or less, because anyway they get paid the same."
| Typical summer fashion in Russia and Ukraine, even for women in their 40's. They are, after all, European women! |
And, finally, some interesting subject matter on foreign brides and the men who seek them...
"In the 90s Russia became popular not only as a new "unexplored" travel destination, but also as a
place to find a "perfect" wife (not a husband, unfortunately for Russian men..) It's not a secret that
some male travelers who come to Russia are also interested in finding a woman, or that a lot of
Russian women are not against marrying an interesting foreign man. There are many reasons for
that: Russian women are considered to be very attractive, and foreign men have an image (among
many Russian women) of being intelligent, wealthy, and interesting partners. It can be quite a good
thing in itself: there are many examples of people who found each other and lived happily after...
However, a huge demand from both sides gave a rise to a new "Russian brides" industry that is
gaining popularity, and a lot of individuals found many dishonest ways of making money out of
bringing people together. So, if you want to find a partner abroad, you should be really aware: there
are a lot of opportunities, but also there's a lot of scam.
It should be pointed out that here we talk not about all Russian women, but only about the women,
who deliberately engaged into looking for a foreign husband (either through the internet or newspaper
ads or by attending parties etc.). Generally, the women who decide to find a foreign husband can be
very different and can have completely different motivations. Some women are sincerely looking for a
partner to create a family together, some women just want to have fun, others want to make money.
So, the following classification might be helpful:"
• "Family-Oriented" Woman. She is looking for a sincere relationship and wants to create a real
stable family with a husband who will love her, understand her, and care about her. Usually, she's
about 25 to 50 years old. She would like to have a safe environment for her family and - partially -
this makes her look for the future husband abroad, because it is considered that a foreigner can have
a much more stable situation (socially and financially), than a Russian. Perhaps, she had already had
a husband, but the first marriage didn't work out very well... She does not necessarily want to leave
their home country, usually, the main criteria is well-being of the future family, for which the place is
not so important."
In my many trips to Russia, the vast majority of women I met would fit this description.
"In the 90s Russia became popular not only as a new "unexplored" travel destination, but also as a
place to find a "perfect" wife (not a husband, unfortunately for Russian men..) It's not a secret that
some male travelers who come to Russia are also interested in finding a woman, or that a lot of
Russian women are not against marrying an interesting foreign man. There are many reasons for
that: Russian women are considered to be very attractive, and foreign men have an image (among
many Russian women) of being intelligent, wealthy, and interesting partners. It can be quite a good
thing in itself: there are many examples of people who found each other and lived happily after...
However, a huge demand from both sides gave a rise to a new "Russian brides" industry that is
gaining popularity, and a lot of individuals found many dishonest ways of making money out of
bringing people together. So, if you want to find a partner abroad, you should be really aware: there
are a lot of opportunities, but also there's a lot of scam.
It should be pointed out that here we talk not about all Russian women, but only about the women,
who deliberately engaged into looking for a foreign husband (either through the internet or newspaper
ads or by attending parties etc.). Generally, the women who decide to find a foreign husband can be
very different and can have completely different motivations. Some women are sincerely looking for a
partner to create a family together, some women just want to have fun, others want to make money.
So, the following classification might be helpful:"
• "Family-Oriented" Woman. She is looking for a sincere relationship and wants to create a real
stable family with a husband who will love her, understand her, and care about her. Usually, she's
about 25 to 50 years old. She would like to have a safe environment for her family and - partially -
this makes her look for the future husband abroad, because it is considered that a foreigner can have
a much more stable situation (socially and financially), than a Russian. Perhaps, she had already had
a husband, but the first marriage didn't work out very well... She does not necessarily want to leave
their home country, usually, the main criteria is well-being of the future family, for which the place is
not so important."
In my many trips to Russia, the vast majority of women I met would fit this description.
"• "Money Maker". This is a dangerous type. Her main goal is to make money, so a long-term relationship is not on her agenda. The most important is to get a
regular allowance from the future husband. Usually, this kind of people come from poor families and are not able to do anything by themselves. However, some of
them are just "players": they get pleasure in sucking out the money, and then disappearing. There were a lot of cases, when a woman like this would engage into
writing over the internet with a foreign man, and then at one moment ask some money to buy a plane ticket to be able to meet. So, a naive "husband" would send
his "future wife" a check for $1000 US and never hear about her again.
There it is guys, from a Russian website itself ... You've been warned.
"• "Russophobiac". She despises Russia and Russians, so her main goal is to emigrate. Usually, her first and main condition is to be able to live abroad, and
deep inside she doesn't care about the relationship. If necessary, she will be a slave to her future husband, only to be able to leave Russia."
Gotta say... In my 10 years of work in the foreign bride biz, I've heard of maybe two women who would fit this description. Two - out of literally hundreds!
But in any case, it's always interesting to read the observations of Russian writers on the whole foreign bride topic. You usually get a mixed review and
some partial truths, which may apply to a number of women in the FSU but certainly not to all or most of them. The best way to get to know the truth about
foreign women is to write to them... Talk to them... Get on a plane and MEET THEM!
regular allowance from the future husband. Usually, this kind of people come from poor families and are not able to do anything by themselves. However, some of
them are just "players": they get pleasure in sucking out the money, and then disappearing. There were a lot of cases, when a woman like this would engage into
writing over the internet with a foreign man, and then at one moment ask some money to buy a plane ticket to be able to meet. So, a naive "husband" would send
his "future wife" a check for $1000 US and never hear about her again.
There it is guys, from a Russian website itself ... You've been warned.
"• "Russophobiac". She despises Russia and Russians, so her main goal is to emigrate. Usually, her first and main condition is to be able to live abroad, and
deep inside she doesn't care about the relationship. If necessary, she will be a slave to her future husband, only to be able to leave Russia."
Gotta say... In my 10 years of work in the foreign bride biz, I've heard of maybe two women who would fit this description. Two - out of literally hundreds!
But in any case, it's always interesting to read the observations of Russian writers on the whole foreign bride topic. You usually get a mixed review and
some partial truths, which may apply to a number of women in the FSU but certainly not to all or most of them. The best way to get to know the truth about
foreign women is to write to them... Talk to them... Get on a plane and MEET THEM!
