By: Kevin

Kevin — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:50:22 +0000

I want to add a few more comments to my initial question on this topic. I asked this question not just for myself, but for all the guys who needed to hear it as well, and I am glad Bud was kind enough to turn it into a post.
I think one thing us guys tend to do in this process is that we have this attitude and position of being the “knightly princes going to save his princess from her horrible life.” But in reality, that attitude does more harm than good. The truth is, most of these ladies that come searching for a foreign man are not looking for someone to save them. These women are strong enough to handle life’s challenges and can do very well for themselves. All they lack is that loving, faithful man to share their life with. Which, if we guys are honest with ourselves, is EXACTLY what we are doing as well! In fact, if a foreign woman IS looking for a man to save her from her life, then I would start raising that red flag. These women do not NEED to be SAVED; they WANT to be LOVED.
I think it is important to put ourselves in their shoes (which can be quite difficult if we have never taken a step in their country). When we see things from their perspective, we begin to understand that their situation is not too dissimilar from our own, at least as far as relationships go. Imagine for a second that you are going to relocate to her country instead of the other way around. Now you have to learn her language just to survive, let alone have a good job. You are surrounded by many foreign women now, who seem more than happy to help you adjust to your new surroundings. But you still are not a citizen yet, and that is solely dependent on your marriage to your wife. After all, she is the reason you are there in the first place. Would you throw away all you have worked for just to have a few flings with some women who remind you of the ones you left behind? Would you really do that to the woman whom you have sacrificed so much for? If you have any moral bone in your body, then you already know the answer….
It is the same for your wife. She will ADAPT to her new surroundings, but she will not SUCCUMB to them. Unless human beings are no better than monkeys, we can let morality guide us rather than instinct. Like Bud said, we will socialize with people more similar to us than different. And I like how Bud points out the irony of American women. They are incapable of handling the competition, so they feel the need to bring foreign women down to their level. Foreign women are too classy and dignified to engage, let alone start, such “cat-fighting.” As long as we prove to be the faithful, loving, strong men that these women deserve, then there is nothing we need to worry about! Foreign women want to love us as much as we want to love them.

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