| Overcoming the Language Barrier With Your Foreign Bride |
| The question came from one of my Monday night listeners, a GREAT question for anyone seriously considering the foreign bride search: "I'm going to Odessa, Ukraine on a Romance Tour. If it's true there will be hundreds of women for me to meet at the socials (and yes, it IS true,) how will I overcome the language barrier when I get introduced to someone?" Obviously, this a question that comes up on every Romance Tour not only to Eastern Europe but to Latin America and Asia. Working through the language "barrier", as my friend called it, is not only important to assure you meet ALOT of ladies but also the BEST POSSIBLE lady for you. By "best possible" I mean someone who has a clear advantage over other ladies in chemistry and compatibility with your most important "life-partner" criteria. Ironically, one of the more amazing qualities foreign ladies possess is the understanding and tolerance they display toward men who come to THEIR country to court them - without knowing how to speak THEIR language at all. We all know how many Americans feel about people who come to our country and don't speak our language, right? These women are more likely to be embarrassed not to be able to speak English to us! Say anything to ladies you meet at romance tour socials in their native language and you'll like the reaction you get! They smile broadly, giggle and just love it. You could literally just say "Hello! How are you?" and get a reply like "Oh, you speak great Russian?" It's also a great icebreaker. |
| Go on a romance tour without brushing up on a little foreign language - and you'll never be so sorry you couldn't talk to ladies who are looking at you like THAT! |
| YOU WANT TO MEET WOMEN WHO DON'T NECESSARILY SPEAK GREAT ENGLISH! Why? Because the vast majority of men who actually get on a plane and go to meet these ladies will ONLY try to meet women who speak great English. And in most cities, regardless of country, the top 3% of English speaking women - we're talking young 20-something model wannabes - are over-pursued by men looking for "I Dream Of Jeannie." You CAN meet English speaking women in cities like Moscow, St. Petersburg, Kiev, Kharkov and Odessa, but in these cities, 30 - 40% of the women will speak some level of English. There haven't been allot of American or English business ventures started in the FSU until recently, so most women will learn other languages like German or Italian. In Latin America the percentage of women who can speak English in places like Colombia and Peru is much lower but a few obviously can. You will do yourself a huge favor in this process to include women in your search who do not speak English. Getting to know them is not as hard as you would think and if you're going to search for a foreign bride or book a romance tour so you can meet hundreds of ladies in order to find HER, then go and meet those hundreds of ladies! Don't limit yourself to the handful who speak perfect English. There are some amazing women who don't speak English yet but will be happy to learn once you give them a very good reason - like a lifetime of love and commitment! “BUT, BUD," YOU'LL ASK, "IF SO MANY FOREIGN WOMEN WANT TO MEET A GUY SHOULDN'T THEY LEARN ENGLISH TO INCREASE THEIR CHANCES?” Well, although any foreign girl's chances of being discovered would increase drastically if she learned English, the opportunity isn't always available or practical. Many women who have graduated from university have jobs and are single moms with long hours and limited resources. They doubt their chances of ever meeting someone and therefore do not invest the time and money in learning English. It isn't until they DO meet an interested man that they're given the best motivation to book some language classes. I met my Viktoria in December of 2001. She didn't speak any English at first. When I went back to see her in March of 2002 we spoke almost entirely in English with the help of a few English-Russian dictionaries. Later on, her letters became longer and longer. It really was remarkable on her part - how dedicated she was to studying English in order to keep our communication going. I thank God for her everyday. Can't imagine where I'd be without her. If you go to Medellin, Colombia, Lima, Peru or other Latin cities believe me you will want to know a little Spanish. Don't miss your opportunity to interact with exotic, breath-taking women who are looking at you like THAT. During my Cartagena tour in 2003, one client told me of an evening in his hotel room with his girl. Geoff described how neither he nor his girl could understand each other, but they played with an electronic translator for awhile, making jokes and small talk. They ate dinner quietly by candlelight, then stood holding each other on his balcony. “Eventually,” Geoff said, “I just started talking without the translator, just told her how beautiful I thought she was, how glad I was to have met her and how I hoped we could find love together. I talked and talked and poured out my soul. She looked puzzled for a moment but then listened quietly until I finished and then began talking herself- just whispering romantically in Spanish for a long time - I have no idea what she said and yet - I know exactly what she said.” That was their first night together. Believe me, the effort you put into meeting women who have yet to learn English will reward you handsomely. There are plenty of interpreters, electronic translators and language courses available to help you. Which brings me to another topic - if you really want to know how to get around the language barrier just follow these three suggestions. 1. Learn a few words and phrases in her native language. 2. Take along a Russian/English or Spanish/English dictionary or an electronic translator. 3. USE THE INTERPRETERS PROVIDED BY THE TOUR OPERATOR! Your tour operator will have a very attentive staff including some very personable, friendly and genuinely helpful interpreters. The interpreters are usually lovely ladies similar to the ones you came hoping to meet. They like us, know why we are there and will try very hard to help us meet someone we really, really like! Yet, most interpreters I have seen at romance tour socials are sitting around completely bored because no guys are asking for their help! You will likely meet your group's interpreters right away, perhaps the first night you arrive. Ask one or two to lunch and tell them all about yourself. Ask them for help in meeting ladies at the socials. Believe me, they will be all over that, hoping if you like a girl who does not speak English you'll ask the interpreter to accompany you on a date thus earning them some usually much needed money. Interpreters are always free during social events - you've paid for them with your tour - but charge a reasonable $8 - $10 per hour while working for you after the socials. Be sure to pay for their lunch, museum tickets, show admission etc along with you and your date. Interpreters see allot of guys come and go. Foreign ladies will generally trust their opinion of you. If yours likes you, she can be a real deal closer later on. |
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| If you find yourself at a romance tour social, sitting across the table from one of these lovely, incredible ladies - how badly will you wish you had majored in Russian in college?!!! Still, no worries - if you wisely use the interpreters who are there to help you get acquainted! |
